Woman did facial and her marriage got called off.
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Karnataka: Groom Cancels Wedding After Woman’s Face Gets Disfigured During Makeup, Beautician Detained For Questioning
In a shocking incident reported from Arasikere village in Karnataka’s Hassan district, a would-be bride’s wedding got called off after a trip to the local beauty parlour turned disastrous. The woman had gone for a makeover ahead of the wedding but ended up with a blackened face, causing the groom to cancel the wedding.
The above news might sound hilarious to some. It can deeply sadden some especially if you have a daughter, sister or friend who has been subject to body shaming just because she is a woman. Put yourself in the shoes of such women and tell me what you would do.
I wonder why sue the beautician alone but let her fiancé go free!
Some questions to reflect upon.
Who needs to be questioned, reprimanded or even punished in such matters? Will punishing anyone help solve such issues? Can anyone say how we can avoid these matters? What is woman’s empowerment? What is feminism? what is gender equality? IMHO, feminism and glittery words often seem to do nothing to common and underprivileged women. Sometimes, it sounds like these words are for celebrities who use them to seek attention for themselves than for the issues.
The woman should be a woman, celebrated for who or what she is. No one has to tell what she should like or do or how she should live or die including another woman as long as she does not harm anything or anyone.
Despite challenging and questioning Indian traditions and culture in the name of feminism and social freedom, the marriage of a woman is still not decided by her in many communities not only in India but also across the world. In many communities particularly in Asia, a groom has the upper hand and will choose the bride to marry if he likes her. Women are groomed, sorry grown to look beautiful for men regardless of where the country is located on the map, east, west or in between. What’s more, the groom can call off the wedding on the same day of the wedding even if there are some cosmetic and superficial issues such as make-up going wrong or the bride getting some skin allergies or dowry issues and can get away from being questioned. Know what? In the social media memes age, these women will be even victimised in the name of jokes and moral measurement.
Even the bride’s family and the bride herself might not question the groom or his family as they might think he deserves to have a more beautiful woman than someone who got disfigured by a beautician. Even in the above case if the source is correct, only the beautician seems to be sued by the parents of the bride and bride. How sad!
From the picture that was published in the article, I think the woman looked beautiful with less makeup and I really don’t know what prompted her to visit the supposedly beauty parlour to seek more beauty treatments to look even better, even just one day before her wedding.
Before the whole world can empower women, women should decide that they should empower themselves. If she thinks she needs to look even more beautiful than her usual self just for the sake of getting married, who can we blame, criticise, reprimand or even punish?
I am not against women who want to look beautiful. But I wonder why she wanted to look more beautiful and put herself under so much pressure that she had to even visit parlours and experiment with beauty treatments even on the day of her wedding? Of all the virtues that exist, why does getting recognition for her beauty from the groom and others matter so much? How often do we dress up well when there is none or no special event? Until a woman changes this attitude that she should look beautiful for the sake of men or others, she will always be (seen as) a sex- commodity.
Have you ever wondered why men don’t go to beauty parlours as much as women do on the day of their wedding? I know there will be comments saying both men and women go to parlour these days. I hope you get what I mean. Not all men go to beauty parlours. But almost every woman goes to the parlour as often as possible when her wedding is fixed.
If you are a bride in the above picture, coming across this post by any chance, please remember that you are beautiful no matter how you look now. Also, some empowerment to you if it makes any difference: If I were you, I would be rather grateful that I went to the beautician so that the marriage got called off. What would have happened had you gone to the beautician the next day after your wedding or a few years after giving birth to children? This man needs therapy if he indeed called off the wedding.
The attention from social media will also make you feel more vulnerable as if you are a subject of some fun. People will be judgmental including me because we analyse your case forgetting that you are made a victim by social media too. However, I want to tell you to keep your head high. You have helped women like me understand that incidents like this still happen even now and prepare ourselves if something like this happens to us. It is a shame that woman is reduced to being valued for their beauty and not for their integrity and individuality. You have not lost anything if this man has indeed called off the wedding. You gained a lot of respect from women like me for sharing your story and creating awareness that women still have a very long way to go in achieving equality, freedom and justice in this society.
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2 thoughts on “Woman did facial and her marriage got called off.”
I have been thinking about this aspect as well recently. It seems women by nature want to be be appreciated and adored. So they cannot do it terms of physical strength in most cases, so they try to do it via show of intelligence or beauty whichever is their strength.
Some women have less self esteem due to the childhood they faced and this also leads to this excessive need for external validation.
The only way to overcome this is if we all , both men and Women start identifying ourselves with spirit rather than body.
Also on a side note, the groom could have been afraid that the bride is overly attached to external looks and he wants a more simple person, that could also be his reasoning, we never know ( The chances are less on this line of thought, but still a possibility exist).
Different perspective to the story of Groom. Thanks for sharing it. As you rightly said, we never know what the true story is unless they share their stories by themselves. In general, human beings, regardless of their gender, are more than their external appearance. We should start celebrating our inner strength too. thanks for stopping by.